Kate Moyle

Relationship Therapist

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As a CORST accredited Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, I specialise in working with those that are struggling with difficulties with their sex lives and sexuality, including many in their twenties and thirties who are impacted by the stresses of modern life. I consider a client’s problem or sexual dysfunction in terms of their personal context and meaning and the role it holds for them as an individual.

I work empathetically with people to recognise their personal understanding of their sexuality and sexual health; with the view that issues have roots in psychology, emotion, the physical body, and a person’s history and culture. Ultimately my aim is to help people get to a place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing.

Q&A's

• What does being healthy mean to you - really?

  Healthy for me is about integrated wellbeing. It’s about balance and considering the different aspects of ourselves, the obvious one in my line of work being the one that many ignore or push out of sight: sex and sexuality.

  Wellbeing and health impact all aspects of our lives, and we can recognise that when one part of out lives is out of kilter that it can impact other parts of our physical and psychological wellbeing.

  Health for me is about recognising and accepting that this is all variable; that life goes up and down and that we understand that there is no generalised ‘normal’ only what is normal for us as individuals.

• One bit of advice you want to give to all Healthista readers?

  To allow sex and sexuality to be a part of your life, even if it is in a non-sexual way. By reading books and articles, listening to podcasts, watching Ted Talks and taking this knowledge forward into conversations.

  For too long sex has been a taboo subject, and for many it is linked to feelings of shame and embarrassment and this is what needs to change.

  Too many peoples’ sex lives are impacted by poor sex education and a lack of sex being openly and comfortable discussed, and this can leave a space where healthy sexuality could grow and thrive, positively impacting people’s lives and wellbeing.

  This needs to change going forward and for future generations. We are getting there, but there is still so far to go and we are all a part of that.

• One thing you do daily that you wouldn't be well without?

  Connection. Whether it is hugging my family & friends, or having a conversation, humans are social creatures and it is the time I spend with others that makes my life and experiences more meaningful. Although I value my alone time and need that self space, it is in balance with time spent in company.

• What will you be bringing to the Healthista Collective?

  Honest and educational posts about sex and relationships. As a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist I am working with people about how to make the changes in their sex lives and relationships for the better.

  In a nutshell so much of what I do is about people discovering their own definition of sex, and recognising that difficulties in our sexual and intimate lives and relationships are much more common than we think.

  As a society we don’t know how, or learn how to talk openly about sex and I am on a mission to change that for as many people as possible.

• Sex advice to your 20 year old self?

  No more ‘should sex’. This is not just the advice for my 20 year old self, but to everyone’s 20 year old self. Sex should be for fun and pleasure, and always with enthusiastic consent.

  Discovering your sexuality and what works for you is a life long journey, you don’t have to know it all at once; and if you don’t then don’t be afraid to say or find out what you don’t know.