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Achieving your goals blog: Week 7 and journalist Alice Hart-Davis learns to bypass negativity

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Alice Hart-Davis is in week seven of her online life coaching class with Jacqueline Hurst designed to help her achieve her goal of writing a book.  This week, she’s spotting other people’s negative thought and speech patterns – as well as her own

We are nearly at the end of The Life Class now and although it has taken only eight short weeks, it feels like it has been  a major journey. I’m also getting a light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel feeling, partly because we have finally eased out of the annual misery that is February and into the pre-Spring warmer days and lighter evenings of March but also because we (that’s me and my co-students in The Life Class group) have been consolidating our learning and the coaching process is becoming for us, if not second nature, then certainly a lot more fluent.

The more I have learned, the more I have realised how much more there is to learn.

The course is moving away from the learning part (of how to be a life coach and manage your mind and your goals) and into the practicalities of running a life coaching business.

I’ve been going back over the course work, and re-visiting the various modules in preparation for the end-of-course assessment next week. That has been an interesting learning process in itself.  After the first week, I remember thinking that I understood it all already — but of course the more I have learned, the more I have realised how much more there is to learn.

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People need to reach out for guidance before she gives it, Alice learned this week.

I have certainly become much better at picking up on other people’s thinking errors. I hear them say, ‘I HAVE to do this,’ or ‘I’m never going to manage that,’ or stating the unhelpful beliefs that they have adopted or developed over the years which are holding them back. It is tempting to jump in and give them a few salient facts about how we DO actually have the power to choose more helpful thoughts and start taking them through a few of the coaching procedures, but until they actually ask me for help, I think I had better hold my tongue.

I have become  better at picking up other people’s thinking errors such as, ‘I HAVE to do this,’ or ‘I’m never going to manage that’

Besides, there’s more than enough work to do on myself (why it is always so much easier to spot problems with other people’s logic than with my own?) This week’s breakthrough involved not letting someone else’s bad mood drag me down with them for the rest of the day. A small thing, but a big relief -— if I’ve done it once, I know I can do it again.

This week’s breakthrough involved not letting someone else’s bad mood drag me down with them for the rest of the day.

One thing I’ve been delighted to discover is that Jacqueline Hurst, who founded The Life Class, has now launched a ‘Be Your Own Life Coach’ programme, too. This is for people who want to learn all the techniques that a Life Class life coach uses, but who don’t want to move on to becoming a coach. It’s not interactive like the course I have been doing, so it would suit people who want to do this in their own time, in their own way. I have to say that although I found the process of actually doing practice coaching incredibly difficult, it has been immensely rewarding.

What I’ve learned this week:

  • That listening properly is key to so many situations.
  • That when people say they don’t know why they are stuck with a particular thought, it’s usually not true. They do know, deep down, and a good life coach, or a spot of honest self-coaching, can help winkle out the reasons.
  • As with everything in life, practice is the key to getting the most out of this whole process; of learning the techniques, then learning skill in applying them.

jacqueline hurst headshot, 8 weeks to achieving your goals: It's Week Five and Alice Hart-Davis is taking steps towards her book project, by Healthista.comJacqueline Hurst is a life and body coachShe  believes everything is possible and that all women can become do-ers.  Hurst’s new The Life Class is an online life-coaching course that takes you on your own personal journey of self-development and teaches you how to be a  life coach in eight weeks. How? By providing you with a sharp, strategic syllabus which uses exceptional tools, techniques and concepts allowing you to truly understand what it means to become a life coach. Expect to gain knowledge, insider information, support and confidence. The Life Class prides itself on its high level of support throughout the course and encourages students to communicate via the Community platform. The Life Class believes that sharing knowledge, ideas and experiences is integral to becoming a great coach. thelifeclass.com | jacquelinehurst.com 

Follow Jaqueline on Twitter at @jhurstcoaching.

alice hart davis headshot, 88 weeks to achieving your goals: It's Week Five and Alice Hart-Davis is taking steps towards her book project, by Healthista.comAlice Hart-Davis is a freelance beauty journalist and the creator of Good Things skincare. She has written a beauty book 100 Ways for Every Girl to Look and Feel Fantastic and blogs on innovation in beauty on her own website. Follow her on Twitter.

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