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5 ways to convince your partner to use sex toys & spice things up in the bedroom

Looking to spice things up in the bedroom, but your partner doesn’t seem convinced? Johanna Rief – Head of Sexual Empowerment at Womanizer and We-Vibe reveals 5 ways you can convince your partner to try out sex toys

Unfortunately, there still exist a lot of myths around sex toys.

One myth for example is that sex toys are only ‘necessay’ if you are not sexually fulfilled in your relationship. That is of course not true.

Sex toys can enhance your love life but will never replace another person.

#1 Communication is key

As with most topics surrounding sex, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your sexual desires and turn-offs.

Ideally, these conversations happen when you’re both in a good mood, emotionally and mentally, and there are no distractions or outside pressures. I recommend that you have talks like this throughout the relationship and not just when there is a problem.

If your partner is reluctant to use a sex toy, you shouldn’t push them or try to change their mind unless they say they are open to it.

Highlight that you want to enhance your shared sex life and make it even more enjoyable for both of you

Start by expressing your views on sex toys and why you are curious about them.

Highlight that you want to enhance your shared sex life and make it even more enjoyable for both of you. If both parties are willing to listen each other, reaching a compromise might be easier than you think.

If they’re not okay with this new idea, no matter what the reason, you need to accept it and you should feel comfortable enough to be express your own feelings.

It is important to understand why your partner thinks and feels this way. Try asking them to explain their views, without pushing them, so you can reach a level of understanding.

5 ways to convince your partner to use sex toys & spice things up in the bedroom Couple in bed communication

#2 Ask general questions about your sex life

Try talking about sex more generally and start with asking your partner questions like ‘How happy are you with our sex life? Is there anything you would like to try to make it even better?’.

This will start the conversation and your partner will most likely ask these questions back to you.

This allows you to talk about your own desires, specifically that you are curious about introducing a sex toy to your love life.

why not visit your local sex toy store or go online so that you can pick something out together

If you think that your partner has these beliefs, explain to them that you are happy with your sex life and that you only want to make it even more exciting and pleasurable for both of you.

If they are receptive to this idea, why not visit your local sex toy store or go online so that you can pick something out together.

Ask them questions how they feel and tell them that they can stop when they start to feel uncomfortable.

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#3 Discuss what sort of stimulation turns you on

When shopping for sex toys for the first time, you should consider what type of stimulation turns you or your partner on.

Also, do you want to try something together or are you looking for something that can offer additional clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex, for example.

Asking these questions or talking about this beforehand with your partner can help while looking for the right toy.

consider what type of stimulation turns you or your partner on

The brand We-Vibe is focused on toys you can use with your partner. For instance, We-Vibe Melt has the perfect shape to be used between two bodies.

Furthermore, We-Vibe Chorus is a couple’s vibrator that can be worn during sex and stimulates both internally and externally.

Excitingly, the free We-Connect App allows the partner to control the vibrations of the sex toy via an app whether they are sitting across the table or in a different city.

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#4 Suggest that your partner tries a sex toy alone first

If your partner has never previously tried a sex toy, it could also be a good option to let your partner buy a product that can be used alone.

This could lead to great experiences which maybe one day your partner will be ready to share with you.

#5 Tell your partner to chat to their friends about it – if they feel comfortable

Sex​uality is not only a big part of relationships but also of life in general and being able to talk openly and honestly with friends is important.

Talking about sex and sex toys can be uncomfortable, even with the people you’re closest to.

However, your friends are the ones who know you best and are often the people who can give you the best advice and input, while keeping your best interests at heart.

Johanna Rief

Johanna Rief believes that female masturbation shouldn’t be tabooed anymore and plays a leading role in developing and selling innovative WOW Tech’s premium sex toys and brands.

As the media landscape changes, Johanna is able to speak in detail about how a sex toy brand navigates the censorship in the media around sexual wellness products as well as provide real insight into the upcoming trends and developments in the sexual wellness industry.

Johanna has an MBA in communication and leadership and is able to use her years of experience to give thoughtful and concise sex and relationship advice.

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