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5 common dating mistakes you could be making

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Unlucky in love? Attracting the wrong people? 5 dating mistakes you could be making, according to Charlene Douglas, sex and dating therapist at Fitafy

Dating can sometimes be overwhelming, so my main piece of advice would be to have fun!

As winter approaches and the year draws to a close, many of us are longing to find that special person that we can settle down with to keep us warm throughout winter and beyond.

the do’s and don’ts of modern dating

However, many singles often find themselves in sticky situations, leaving themselves questioning their tact and techniques.

We caught up with Fitafy’s acclaimed sex and dating therapist, Charlene Douglas, to find out the do’s and don’ts of modern dating.

Dating Mistake #1 Putting all your eggs in one basket

A common mistake people make when approaching dating, is assuming that the first person they meet will be their ‘person’.

They meet one person and pin all hope on this person being the one to meet all of their emotional needs.

Instead of putting all your energy in the first person you date, I would recommend dating a few people until you’re sure that you have met someone you want to progress with.

eggs in one basket dating mistakes

Dating Mistake #2 Creating a dating profile that doesn’t show who you really are

Another major mistake people make when dating, is creating a dating profile that doesn’t accurately reflect who they are.

Your dating profile is a great way to showcase your interests, personality and appearance – so make sure that your profile reflects who you are as a person.

For example if you’re a fitness fan and struggle to meet people who share your interests, make it clear on your profile.

make sure that your profile reflects who you are

Ps: if you are someone who is looking for a like-minded fitness fanatic, I recommend using Fitafy, designed for people who are passionate about sport and fitness, so be sure to show your sporty side on your profile.

Dating Mistake #3 Being too closed minded

Some people have less luck when dating as they get bogged down by their list of ‘must-haves’. Don’t narrow your search for a partner by rejecting possible matches who could show you a whole new world of love.

It can sometimes turn out to be self-sabotage if you decide not to date someone before meeting them – just because on paper, they don’t fit your pre-existing criteria.

Be open and get to know different people… you might surprise yourself. Often people end up with a partner that is completely different to the person they thought they would end up with.

dating mistakes couple on a date christmas

Dating Mistake #4 Comparing everyone to your former partner

It’s often quite common for people to consciously (or subconsciously) compare new flames to their previous ones, especially if you still have some sort of emotional connection to them.

I would highly recommend focusing on every new person you meet as a fresh and unique individual. Try to learn their ways and appreciate them for their own qualities and try to not compare them with someone else.

Don’t assume everyone is out to get you and trust the process

This will allow you to step into a new chapter with a fresh pair of eyes and look towards the future, leaving the past in the past.

Dating Mistake #5 Overthinking

The prospect of dating can sometimes be filled with anxiety and worry. One main way to avoid these feelings is to stop overthinking certain situations.

Don’t assume everyone is out to get you and trust the process. If your date texts you, don’t wait five hours to reply, this could put a spanner into the works and jolt the flow of your conversation.

Be open and upfront with your feelings, even if it’s a little scary, because let me assure you the person opposite you isn’t a mind reader.

Whether it’s due to awkwardness, pride or shame, not being forthcoming about your feelings is a very common dating mistake.

If you want to have success in your dating life, you have to let people in and just go with the flow.

couple on a beach dating mistakes

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